There is no exact definition of money for each. Some people consider it a source of power. Others use it t exercise control. Some find security in having money while a few associate money with love. There is no definite way to view the use and importance of money. However, co-living or joint ownership through marriage provides a challenge on money matters.
The household’s money situation can be a delicate matter. When making ends meet, couples may neglect to broach the subject at all. Hence, the situation doesn’t improve and remains unsolved. Open communication between couple’s financial habits and status is the only way to resolve current dilemmas.
Talking about finances should not be taboo. There are ways to exchange ideas and open up about spending, bills, and debt. Below are some household management tips for couples talking about money.
Encourage a calm exchange.
Don’t open the subject when there’s an ongoing concern. At the same time, don’t wait until the credit card statements blow up before resolving the situation. Aim for a calm, relaxed discussion. Do this when there aren’t existing issues or underlying problems. Ensure both of you aren’t under pressure or high levels of stress. Both must be in a stable condition to absorb the situation, come up with solutions, and freely discuss money.
Exchanges after overcoming a rough patch place couples in a better state of mind. They approach the topic in an objective than a subjective view. They cover more during the discussion as there’s only a small chance to spark a fight.
Exchange expectations, feelings, and hopes about money.
Begin the discussion by sharing experiences and feelings. It gives each a picture of reactions when handling money. It pushes the couple to tackle their history and habits. It also clears the air of how and why each reacts a certain way. Couples start to have a better understanding of each other. It strengthens the individual support they have for each.
Acknowledge each sentiment. Share financial hopes to reach a negotiation. The purpose of the exchange is to have a common ground to achieve financial stability.
Be honest with your partner.
Assess past and present situation. If one or both of you used to be independent, recognize that state. It helps to identify your strengths and weaknesses on spending. It also becomes the basis to set goals and small financial targets. Past experiences can serve as lessons while the present situation is the beginning of making a difference. Commit to honesty during open exchanges.
Being honest also shows confidence in money matters and fears of the future. Don’t hide behind smiles, hefty paychecks, and lavish vacations. If something is up, you must bring it to the table. Resolve matters as a team.
Follow or set your own do’s and don’ts when merging finances.
Household finances entail several responsibilities. It requires consistent spending and income records. It must have a monthly budget. Someone pays the bills. There are other do’s and don’ts to adapt when in a mid-rise condo. It’s up to couples to see rules which fit their lifestyle.
The basic of merging finances depends on their existing bank accounts. It’s a must to have separate savings accounts and credit cards. It helps each build individual credit history and loan application when needed. A joint account is useful for groceries and other small household purchases. Another reason to maintain the account is for future financial goals.
Couples must establish their rules as early as possible to mitigate financial disasters.
Consult a third-party.
Seek the help of a counselor, a therapist or a financial consultant when issues become out of proportion. A marriage counselor can help manage the strains the strains in the relationship. A therapist can identify spending problems and help manage uncontrollable impulses. A financial consultant can help you plan for the future. They can suggest ways how to handle and grow money. They can help you look forward and focus on your financial goals.
Couples don’t have to do the work by themselves. Help is available everywhere. All they have to do is ask. There are professionals in each field who can educate them to cope and process their issues with money.
Couples have to be honest and open up their concerns about money. They must tackle household finances as a team. It helps them commit to their condo, improve their communication, and achieve their long-term financial goals. Committed couples establish rules and boundaries to have a smooth-sailing relationship with money.